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.I have been deeply touched with graphic details. Sushma Sharma touched base about you and we shared ways of constructively engaging with you. We do have some ideas including thoughts for well being of Nisarga. In the mean time do you see a possibility that in the foreseeable future your husband, who too, needs help may wish to avail of it. If he does think so, his being supported also is warranted. My pranaams to your parents and others in your family who have been standing by you.
lots of love to Nisarga and you.
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Yes, Sushma spoke with me this morning. Really appreciate you thinking of this and working to make it happen. Been a chaotic few days, so missed responding immediately. Things slowly getting better.
Am glad you are out of immediate danger. But my friend…. life is going to get more messy. Stay strong and clear headed. Sending you my love and hugs. Take care… Shout, when you need me around.
We have come to live in an amazing world. The blow-by-blow account of describing your alleged alcoholic husband’s tyranny. It is indeed a great relief for tweeples who have been left on tenterhooks like a soap trying to shift its climax to the next episode when you categorically stated there isn’t an ounce of physical violence that you have been subjected to since your marriage. Although your husband is capable of violence, fortunately it hasn’t been directed to you since, however you live under the perennial fear that you might be subjected to the same physical violence. Its been a graphical representation of the classical act of damsel-in-distress of yesteryears but in today’s internet lingo its been referred to as an ‘attention slut’. Besides attempts are being made to take the sting out of this world ‘slut’. Rightly so, as it negatively describes the female libido while it positively acknowledges the male libido.
It is very reassuring to note our Mumbai Police has swung in action to help you. However, I gather your cell phone service provider has fallen out of your favour. Ironically I find you haven’t tweeted the grief of your customer dissatisfaction yet find time to continue to villainize your husband with an alarming level of regularity. I think you husband ultimately steals the limelight of this story since despite him reading his unfavourable description by you on the Internet still allows you to tweet and write about him each time you think it is necessary to vent out your anger on your blog and Twitter. To top it all he hasn’t confronted you about publishing your married life on the Internet since he believes his wife should have the freedom of expression perhaps the ultimate one if right to the internet is considered.
Well I need to know his brand of alcohol now that still has only selectively impaired his faculty of judgement.
It does not matter what you think. I am at my parents place. If my husband comes out the hero, I’d be the first in line to cheer. I hope you are right, because looking like an attention slut would be a very small price to pay for six years of love abandoned.
I am sorry if you have taken umbrage for my post. I only pointed out the lack of information since it seemingly appeared as a lopsided view. I am sure it must be an idea worth trying of visiting a therapist since I gather from your message you still haven’t given a chance to remediate the situation through professional help. That’s quite ironic to endure 6 years of abandoned love and choosing to rant it on the Internet.
Steve, I sensed some judgments in your post – as though suffering is not valid until I touch some benchmark you have in mind certifying it or you’ll fight me for fraud or something. Perhaps you did not mean it, and it is me being prickly.
Yes, I am going through a lot of options right now on many fronts, and it is falling into place slowly. Initial conversations do seem to bring up that a therapist is not an urgent necessity, though I want one, if only to feel heard enough.
About making it public, you wouldn’t believe how common this phenomenon is, except that it is hidden. I see no reason to hide it, because the contents of all that I disclosed do not constitute a husband-wife relationship to me.
It is my value that I speak up where wrong happens. You can check five years of archives. I can do no less for me.
Very well handled. Though all of this is unfortunate, I think it is better on what you are doing now. The kid needs to be safe. We wish and pray for a peaceful life for you.
Yay for you. I’m actually in tears writing this. Tears of relief that you are making a move so badly needed. Tears of pride in that I have the privilege of “talking” to such an amazing woman. Tears shared for the horrible things you have had to put up with recently. You were always in danger. Just because he wasn’t violent doesn’t mean that you were in any less risk. From what you said, he was in a dangerous downward spiral. He really, really desperately needs help, so I am also very worried for your husband. He will be in a very delicate position now. But you must move – staying with him damages all three of you. I want to thank you so much – what you have done here is remarkable. And it sets an example of just how others can handle a similar situation. If you don’t mind, my next blog post will be about this, linking to this article.
Thanks for your caring. Yes, he does need help too, but it isn’t the place of anyone to provide it till he wants it. I hope this also helps him see that. In any case, you are right. Staying damages the three of us.
I don’t mind you writing about this at all. Why would I? If I wanted this hidden, I didn’t need to mention on Twitter, or blog it at all.
I think these things need said, even if it is embarrassing personally.
Wow! Just read this Vidyut. You have been amazingly brave and level headed. all the very best for your future. Hopefully, this will be the necessary lesson for him to want to clean up his act and get you and your son back. Lots of hugs and Prayers.
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