What is an affair?

Was in a conversation with a friend, and one thing led to another, and there was much deliberation around what constitutes an affair. We found we had differing definitions. That got me curious, so I’m throwing this question out to all of you. How do you define an affair? What is an affair, what is not.

Scharada Dubey commented:
An affair is when two people consensually get into an arrangement where there is regular verbal, physical and emotional communication over a sustained period. This is what distinguishes it from the one night stand. Often, it also, by its nature, implies that conditions may not permit the relationship to have a more socially acceptable form, like culmination in marriage, and therefore some cloak and dagger element is necessitated 🙂
@Vidyut well when u get stimulation mental and / or physical from someone besides ur partner
sunainajairath
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut affair – a relationship which either involves love , lust or deceit
ShreyanshS
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut The name given to a thoroughly enjoyed & promised never to repeat mistake.
ViciousLuscious
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut You can cheat with your eyes, and thoughts and heart. When cheating turns into action, it’s an affair.
LilMissIssues
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut : Friendships/relationship seeking 2 seek solace, comfort, soul sharing – depth of the relationship is almost as close as marriage
sophiaahmed
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut extra-marital sexual encounters
Uberschizo
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut If the two people are involved in such a relationship that themselves try to hide certain aspects of it, I’d consider it ‘affair’.
KetPan
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut I think an affair is a romantic and/or sexual relationship between two people who are not married to each other.
Vidyut
July 6, 2011
And there were less defined, responses, witty, insightful, charming in their own ways….
@Vidyut You spoke my mind……:)
NilimDutta
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut Betwn 2 unmarried ppl relationship can b either platonic or sexual.Its ‘affair’ only in d eyes of others,but 4 dem its a relatnship.
CuteIndianBitch
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut when you tweet abt it, you get RTed at least 10 times.
cornerd
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut its a misunderstanding between two confused souls.
anushreekejriwa
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut when ‘off-air’ matters of shy lovebirds go ‘on-air’ they get labelled as ‘aff-air’ 😉
soulroute
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut when a guy wearing iron maiden is looking for a ‘I am sorry’ card at archies !
abhinavgupta90
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut You know it when you have one! 😛
KetPan
July 6, 2011
@Vidyut And never mind, other people will define it for you when you have one. 🙂
KetPan
July 6, 2011
Yeah all the affairs be it romantic, Parliamentary or religious , all are too scary. @behanjee @Vidyut
CuteIndianBitch
July 6, 2011

Chandrima das shared this quote:

“I swear, by my life and my love of it, that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.” – ultimate moral of every affair .. courtesy: Atlas Shrugged
A most interesting discussion with many people… and I think I get a better idea of what all could be meant when someone speaks of an affair.

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2 thoughts on “What is an affair?

  1. I was 23 and had moved to Bangalore after 17 years of dwelling in Delhi. It was a new neighborhood. A 3 story building, I use to stay in the ground floor. In first floor there was a Sindhi woman married and living with her Husband and 2 kids. She was around 35. They had moved in from abroad. They were very modern and broadminded. When I first met her there a pause within each other, a chemistry flowing, She was quick to read my mind. I had fallen for her. She was voluptuous and sexy. She was my first love or lust whatever you name it. She started coming home when I was alone in pretext of borrowing gas or vegetables dressed in her skimpy night clothes. Sometimes she would brush me with her shoulders to entice me. I was very shy and scared, just would stand still and watch her not knowing what do to. Gradually, we became good friends, like getting into conversations, sharing each other our fav dishes. Me and her husband too became good friends. One day she told me that she doesn’t share the same bed with her husband. Their relationship was on rocks, he was abusive to her. I got attached to her a lot. It had become compulsive to see each other every day or else I would sulk. Our relationship became obvious and evident to my family and the entire neighborhood. My thoughts went too far of marrying her if she would divorce. We both had desires to get physical. I was a virgin then and she was sexually deprived. She gave me many chances but every time I would tremble the moment she took the first step and walk out from her house because I did feel somewhere deep inside that I was doing wrong.  One day our neighbor called her husband and told him all about us. He did not believe it and trusted his wife, thank god I was safe, following I decided to end this my ‘affair’ and took off to Mumbai in search of a career. It wasn’t easy for me, I got into depression, I missed her  lot, it almost took me a year to get over her. My first ‘affair’ that will always be in my mind. In the end I am happy that I kept my relationship clean by not getting physical with her.
     
    I hope you guys liked my, this little affair story. Thanks and bye

  2. I was 23 and had moved to Bangalore after 17 years of dwelling in Delhi. It was a new neighborhood. A 3 story building, I use to stay in the ground floor. In first floor there was a Sindhi woman married and living with her Husband and 2 kids. She was around 35. They had moved in from abroad. They were very modern and broadminded. When I first met her there a pause within each other, a chemistry flowing, She was quick to read my mind. I had fallen for her. She was voluptuous and sexy. She was my first love or lust whatever you name it. She started coming home when I was alone in pretext of borrowing gas or vegetables dressed in her skimpy night clothes. Sometimes she would brush me with her shoulders to entice me. I was very shy and scared, just would stand still and watch her not knowing what do to. Gradually, we became good friends, like getting into conversations, sharing each other our fav dishes. Me and her husband too became good friends. One day she told me that she doesn’t share the same bed with her husband. Their relationship was on rocks, he was abusive to her. I got attached to her a lot. It had become compulsive to see each other every day or else I would sulk. Our relationship became obvious and evident to my family and the entire neighborhood. My thoughts went too far of marrying her if she would divorce. We both had desires to get physical. I was a virgin then and she was sexually deprived. She gave me many chances but every time I would tremble the moment she took the first step and walk out from her house because I did feel somewhere deep inside that I was doing wrong.  One day our neighbor called her husband and told him all about us. He did not believe it and trusted his wife, thank god I was safe, following I decided to end this my ‘affair’ and took off to Mumbai in search of a career. It wasn’t easy for me, I got into depression, I missed her  lot, it almost took me a year to get over her. My first ‘affair’ that will always be in my mind. In the end I am happy that I kept my relationship clean by not getting physical with her.
     
    I hope you guys liked my, this little affair story. Thanks and bye

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