Marital Rape – VAWAM

Today’s subject in the Violence Against Women Awareness Month is Marital Rape. Ugly subject. Was a heavy day.

Violence Against Women Awareness Month: Day 6 – Marital Rape #VAWAM #MRape
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
If a woman is forced by her husband/spouse, into sexual acts that she is not comfortable with, that is termed marital rape. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Many women who are the victims of marital rape are raped repeatedly over and over again by their own spouse. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
This leaves them to question if they have the right to report the rape, as it may appear that they condoned the rape. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
The rapist being her own spouse with whom she had consensual sex, she may question whether it is truly rape or not. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
The rapist being her own spouse with whom she had consensual sex, she may question whether it is truly rape or not. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Marital rape does as much, if not more, traumatic damage to the victim than raped by any stranger. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Studies suggest that marital rape does as much, if not more, traumatic damage to the victim than being raped by any stranger. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
It is sometimes very difficult for women to differentiate between what takes place in her marital bed as rape or sexual play. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Marital rape can be violent and be accompanied by much physical and sexual abuse. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
An abuser may demand sex be a part of the make-up process after he has physically or emotionally abused his partner. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Marital Rape can be coercion into performing sexually uncomfortable, demeaning and humiliating actions. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Legal information on Marital Rape in India http://bit.ly/qbI4MH #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Social conditioning has led India”s women to believe that after marriage there is no such thing as sexual consent. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Opinions? => RT @bharat_k: @Vidyut it all comes from the celluloid world where they have sex after a violent argument
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Dynamics of defeat. Sex after an episode of abuse can be consolidating control. What the victim wants is rendered irrelevant. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
It is true films show sex after a fight, but difficult to say if use of sex as such a weapon happened after film was invented #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Forcing sex after a fight reminds me of cannibals – what more complete defeat of an enemy than eating him? #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
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Remember what I said about attention being power? Check out next few tweets – want to diagnose what is happening/attempted? #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
@Vidyut what if a women leaves a man who is not able to perform sexual activites … Isn’t that domestic violence nd cruelty …
AryanIndians
October 5, 2011
@Sexybichoo @Vidyut what if the woman rapes her hubby ?? then……………
yellowduck45
October 5, 2011
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A marriage license does not require someone to submit to sexual contact on demand. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Shifting focus away from a subject that needs attention. Speaker finds the subject/victim not worth paying attention to? #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
@athul_gs Married females can only use forced intercourse as a ground for divorce under domestic violence law! No rape! @Sexybichoo @Vidyut
Sumit_Nagpal
October 5, 2011
#VAWAM #MRape RT @Sumit_Nagpal: @athul_gs See exception in the sixth clause http://bit.ly/pnHFCY
Vidyut
October 5, 2011

Discussion with lawyers on Marital Rape and Laws in India

@Vidyut Why must a woman stay with a man potentially violent towards her? not convinced on marital rape- tool for revenge on other issues.
RisingIndiawins
October 6, 2011
Often, a woman doesn’t have options, like a place to move out to, source of income, kids… besides, rape is rape. Married or not. #MRape
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
To all the people making saying it is unnecessary to have laws for marital rape, have you spoken with a person who was raped? #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
“Husband or Wife can accuse “Rape” (though enjoyed sex) if they developed any difference.” ~ @mazher50 || Can happen with any rape #MRape
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
“Marital rape concept trivialises real rape” ~ @RisingIndiawins || How come? #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
#MRape #VAWAM While a murderer destroys the physical frame of the victim, a rapist degrades and defiles the so… (cont) http://deck.ly/~UCi3z
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
An abuse counselor commented: If all marital rapes were reported, there would be millions happening every day in India alone. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
3 categories of #MRape – 1 involve a degree of violence, 2 ‘force-only’ rapes, and sadistic rapes. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
1. Violent rape occurs when the abuser through physical violence cause injury to the victim. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
2. ‘Force-only’ rape means using force/coercion by the abuser to control or hold his wife in position #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
3. Sadistic rape is when the victim is either forced to comply with or undergo deeds designed to further humiliate her. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
#MRape questions every understanding the woman has of her partner, her marriage and also of herself. #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Your opinions? http://bit.ly/ptWfHI #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Vishaka Vs. State of Rajasthan and others in 1997 is the first time sexual harassment has been explicitly – legally defined #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Trauma from the rape adds to the effect of other abusive acts or abusive and demeaning talk. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Marital rape, also known as spousal rape, is non-consensual sex in which the perpetrator is the victim’s spouse. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
This is not true. Sex is not illicit in India. Completely false. http://bit.ly/oZVltf @RisingIndiawins
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Most developing countries outlawed Marital Rape in the 1990s and 2000s. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
In the case of rape by a spouse or long term sexual partner, the history of the relationship affects the victim”s reactions. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@RisingIndiawins The law does recognize marital rape now. I have no clue where you are going with this. @Anni_Pearl
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Marital Rape and Indian Law http://bit.ly/qj3eQD Compilation of earlier discussion with @saima2000 @Swatysmalik @jay_ambadi @Sumit_Nagpal
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Marital Rape and Indian Law http://bit.ly/mWgY8R
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Marital Rape and Indian Law http://dlvr.it/pZsny
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Vishaka Vs. State of Rajasthan and others http://bit.ly/pUXMAU #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
It takes a lot of courage for an Indian woman to be able to speak about things as intimate and personal as marital rape #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
The unpardonable crime By: Smitha Nambiar http://bit.ly/pSwCeq #mustread #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@RisingIndiawins People change. It is very common for men to be abusive and still demand sex. Very common. @primary_red @Anni_Pearl
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
When a stranger rapes a woman, she lives with a frightening memory. But, when her husband rapes her, she lives with the rapist.#MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Morons saying women deserve rapes for refusals/actions/clothes must accept being called abusers because of their attitudes. Thank you! 🙂
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@Vidyut It is ’cause of such morons that every educated Indian needs to support SlutWalk. We need to fight that filthy mindset.
avinchhangani
October 6, 2011
Marital Rape: Still an Underreported Crime in India by Lesley D. Biswas http://bit.ly/ozW460 #mustread #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
While rape by a stranger is highly traumatic, it is typically a one-time event and is clearly understood as rape. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
In the case of rape by a spouse or long term sexual partner, the history of the relationship affects the victim”s reactions. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
As the concept of human rights has developed, the belief of a marital right to sexual intercourse has become less widely held. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women by UNHC for HR establishes marital rape as a human rights violation. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women http://bit.ly/oTB9kc #fascinatingread #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@GraveyDice Yes. Rape is rape. Unfortunately, a chauvinistic society with an expectation of “marital duties” makes this an uphill struggle.
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
This man thinks women get raped because of western clothes. => @JantaVani || Ok to insult him because he is ugly?
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
If wearing Western Clothes is an invitation to rape, we should refuse visas on the grounds of being unsafe.
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Marital rape is extremely destructive because it betrays the fundamental basis of marital relationship. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Strongly needed is a system to provide victims with medical attention, shelter and legal aid in case of an emergency. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
#fact RT @AishMGhrana: @Vidyut ask data. I think in many Indian Dress, women could not properly defend, even in skirts also.
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
The Right to Abuse is not among the rights assured as a part of Human Rights. I checked. #IssuedInPublicInterest
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Man beheads wife. Carry’s severed head through Guwahati street. http://bit.ly/prMWk1 #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
Man beheads wife after she gives birth to son http://bit.ly/nzy6A3 Different incident. Looks like beheading wives is in vogue.
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
The man who says he is entitled to sex because he married wife willing or not reminds me of Shylock. The law must play Portia. #MRape #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@Vidyut i hav a frnd who was raped by her hsbnd n fil every time she ‘disobeyed’ . She was eventually hospitalised.its a shockin story
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011
@OyeMaria whoa!!! Tell me bastards are in jail?
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@Vidyut well today she is free and leads a happy life. But had a very very tough journey. I shudder to think of her story 🙁
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011
@OyeMaria now THAT plain pisses me off when it happens
Vidyut
October 6, 2011
@Vidyut no they arent. Very rich & influential ppl. Case dragged, they wriggled out. :-/
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011
@Vidyut our laws have enough loopholes to exploit. Sad n frustrating.
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011
Violence Against Women Awareness Month: Day 6 – Marital Rape #VAWAM #MRape
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Its Violence Against Women Awareness Month #VAWAM. Tomorrow’s topic, female foeticide. Follow @Vidyut for those tweets n contribute
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011
Its Violence Against Women Awareness Month #VAWAM. Tomorrow’s topic, female foeticide. Follow @Vidyut for those tweets n contribute
OyeMaria
October 6, 2011

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