What is it that you really want?
Take a pen and paper, or open notepad and scribble. Write down everything that you want in life. Don’t worry about how much is possible or not, or contradicting other things you want…… just list everything that occurs to you without “editing” it. We will not be editing it at all – ever. We will simply be organizing it.
Sounds impossible? Don’t bother about that. Right now, work on that list. Make that list something that will have your life totally “sorted out”.
Bookmark this page, or simply minimize this window and don’t move ahead of this for the next hour. Ideally, don’t even read ahead until then. Keep working on that list until sated, and do something else for an hour.
Great. Now, I assume you’re back after honestly spending that hour elsewhere.
Open that list and take a fresh sheet of paper, or open another blank document.
I want you to move items on that list up or down, depending on how important/urgent they are. Again, don’t worry about the possible or not. Ideas of possible and impossible change.
Juggle around with this list. Look at it in different ways. If you’re serious about this, I’ll recommend creating versions of this list based on a variety of factors – urgency, ease/difficulty of achieving, sets of items related with each other, and so on. Heck, why not, even create one based on how possible or impossible they seem (though ease and difficulty may address that).
Now, come back to the original list based on importance or urgency and pick up the first couple of items on that list and see where they stand on the others.
These few items are where most of your conscious efforts are going to be directed. Keep coming to this blog to find out how to deal with them individually, but suffice it to say for now, keep them in focus always. Print those lists out or take those papers and staple them together and stick them on top of your fridge or computer monitor, where they will be staring right back at you.
Why? Because they are a part of your life. In fact, this lack is an important influence on your life. It is your dissatisfaction and we are planning on turning this into motivation. For this to happen, it is important that you stop running away from them when you can and being overwhelmed when you can’t, and learn to be comfortable looking at them enough to be addressing them as the time comes.
In the coming posts, I will be dealing with very common items on people’s lists and seeing how they can be managed. It will not be easy, but its not particularly tough either. In the meanwhile, if you think there is any particular “item” you’d like me to address, feel free to drop in a comment, and I’ll give it a shot.
What makes me certain that this works – its what I’ve always been doing, and I have managed to create a life for myself where I am not highly educated, I’ve never had a job, and have changed professions too often to have “stable earnings” in any one, yet, I have never lacked for money (earnings, not inheritance), am a respected professional, and have achievements, sources of income in multiple fields, and a happy family life (well, as happy as chaos can get). I have never earned money from anything I don’t like to do, and I never have to land up anywhere for work that I don’t want to go. Do I sound like I know what I’m talking about?