Emotional Abuse – VAWAM

Violence Against Women Awareness Month: Day 5 – Emotional Abuse #VAWAM #EA
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Emotional abuse is a pattern of mental violence that serves to dehumanize and disempower a person. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Emotional violence and controlling behaviour does not give equal importance and respect to another’s feelings and experiences. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
#EA comes silently most of d times camouflaged as "love,betterment,moral duty,guilt,emo.blackmail,marital rape.Silence helps it breed"#VAWAM
tikulli
October 4, 2011
# VAWAM Expecting/ forcing a woman2do wht is"accepted and advocated" by society is #EA. Women who dont rebel against it in smway promote it.
tikulli
October 4, 2011
@Vidyut #EA#VAWAM I don’t see any men adding their voices or sharing views4the cause or did I miss. I hope they are at least looking within.
tikulli
October 4, 2011
"If you think that just because you aren’t being physically abused nothing is wrong, think again." #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 4, 2011
While emotional or psychological abuse may be difficult to pinpoint, examples abound. The following tweets are signs of #EA. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 4, 2011
If your partner does any of these: Using economic power to control you, threatening to leave, smashing things, humiliating you …. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 4, 2011
…Controlling you through minimizing, denying & blaming, making you afraid by using looks, gestures or actions, withholding approval.#VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 4, 2011
…Continually criticizing you, calling you names, shouting at you, emotionally degrading you in private, but loving in public… #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 4, 2011
http://t.co/yc4dFQdt #VAWAM
tikulli
October 4, 2011
RT @maps4aid: Sexual harassment at workplace : Victim lady constable transferred http://t.co/LNzRUjSU #VAWAM #vaw
BeingJyoti
October 5, 2011
@fight_abuse #VAWAM #EA He was my first love, my first everything. I had grown up with very low self esteem, and (cont) http://t.co/AppOP7NT
TivaTenacious
October 4, 2011
Understanding how Emotional Abuse works is crucial to being able to fight it. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Emotional abuse is commonly defined as the systematic tearing down of another human being. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Like most forms of violence, emotional abuse is based on power and control over another person. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
#EA is probably the least understood type of abuse, although it is the most prevalent and most destructive. #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Rejecting: refusing to acknowledge a person”s presence, value or worth #VAWAM Types of #EA
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Degrading: insulting, ridiculing, name-calling, imitating, yelling, swearing, publicly humiliating, labelling a person as stupid #VAWAM #EA
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Ignoring or neglect is a kind of emotional blackmail intended to play on a person’s need for attention and affection #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Signs of Domestic Abuse and Abusive Relationships http://t.co/rSAdnfaQ Emotional abuse is a bigger problem than you think #EA #VAWAM
lathu
October 4, 2011
Emotional abuse is commonly defined as the systematic tearing down of another human being. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Like most forms of violence, emotional abuse is based on power and control over another person. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
#EA is probably the least understood type of abuse, although it is the most prevalent and most destructive. #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
The victim comes to see him or herself as unworthy of love, affection and respect. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Rejecting: refusing to acknowledge a person”s presence, value or worth #VAWAM Types of #EA
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Degrading: insulting, ridiculing, name-calling, imitating, yelling, swearing, publicly humiliating, labelling a person as stupid #VAWAM #EA
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Ignoring or neglect is a kind of emotional blackmail intended to play on a person’s need for attention and affection #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Terrorizing: inducing terror or fear in a person, intimidation, threatening, stalking #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Isolating: physical confinement, limiting freedom, restricting normal contact with other people #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Corrupting/Exploiting: forcing someone to accept ideas and behaviours, using someone for profit #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
The aim of emotional abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence #EA #VAWAM
lathu
October 4, 2011
Bullying, dominating, intimidating terrorize by keeping a victim in a state of fear/wariness #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
You are #justsaying or there is data? RT @indiantweeter: @Vidyut a woman is a enemy of woman itself ! It is very premature to blame only men
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
#EA VAWAM RT @murugaprabum: @Vidyut Many man do this to get the attention of women.
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
There is data available on human behaviour. There is data with psychologist cases, police complaints. @anushreekejriwa @indiantweeter
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
There is data available in the world you see around you, if you care to notice. @anushreekejriwa @indiantweeter
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
While it is true women abuse women, it is not premature to consider men as prime perpetrators. @anushreekejriwa @indiantweeter #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
1. It is your imagination that I name only men as abusers. Show me the tweet which says that. Why did this come to your mind? #EA VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
2. While women or men can be abusers, our focus here is on women victims.
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Witch Hunting : The Dark Indian Reality http://t.co/TjJ68HDC /via @wordpressdotcom #VAWAM
tikulli
October 4, 2011
It is funny how if I am talking abuse, people think I am calling men abusers and defend them. No smoke without fire? #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Even more bizarre is those who assum I am attacking men when I am not, do it and name women as perpetrators – no basis in data. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Interesting how we are conditioned culturally to protect the masculine. Supermen need to be protected from imagined hurt too! #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Women are their own greatest enemies” is a meaningless statement. Used to cover up and avoid reality, not face it.
Uberschizo
October 4, 2011
Dowry Harassment: 22 yr old Rukmini from bangalore hangs herself to death http://t.co/EsT7zhtb #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 4, 2011
Harassed for dowry by her husband, 19 yr old Fatima ends her life http://t.co/LkEboNFS #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 4, 2011
By looking at something else, we avoid looking at what is happening. worth asking why such discomfort. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Learning from Shornur, Kerala: Create secure space for all our women http://t.co/5Mpv0Qhy #VAWAM
lathu
October 4, 2011
Why? RT @sanjaydole999: @Vidyut The victim are women only . They need to stay in marriage because they want to raise good citizen .
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
IF IT HURTS IT IS NOT LOVE #EA#VAWAM
tikulli
October 4, 2011
We obsess with exceptions to make them look bigger and tell ourselves that things are not so bad after all. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
For this month, notice the gender of everyone you interact with. Notice gender of people in interactions you are not part of.
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Social hierarchies, norms, prejudices. Interpersonal power struggles, jealousy. Conditions of deprivation or insecurity. Breed #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 4, 2011
Sentenced to Life | For raping and killing 60 yr old woman in Dec 2010 http://t.co/JHUr2JW6 #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 4, 2011
18 yr old girl found in half-naked state, with her throat slit. Rape Suspected. http://t.co/zaxQOqlX #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 4, 2011
The aim of emotional abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence #EA #VAWAM
lathu
October 4, 2011
A man who uses his strength to subjugate, intimidate & brutally beat up a woman is not even worth being called a man. #vaw #VAWAM
rlalita
October 5, 2011
"Otherwise he is a gem, its only when he is drunk, I try to hide his liquor bottle, that is when he is angry, its my fault, really" #VAWAM"
pushpz
October 5, 2011
#If I leave him, will you support me? No nah? then leave me alone, mind ur own biz, otherwise I will tell my hubby" #VAWAM
pushpz
October 5, 2011
"You r single, u will never understand y we can’t leave, this is our fate and we live with it, let it be, we will compromise" #VAWAM
pushpz
October 5, 2011
"You have never loved anybody that passionately, what u know?, just little abuse is no reason to just walk away, He loves me" #VAWAM
pushpz
October 5, 2011
"Actually he is very nice, he gets violent only when my MIL or SIL interfere, but then its just a passing phase" #VAWAM
pushpz
October 5, 2011
"My family says get a divorce and the money then we will help u settle down" #VAWAM
pushpz
October 5, 2011
Abuse is a pattern. Road rage or a fight is not it. It has to be an established norm of interaction. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
In other news, it comes to my notice that people don’t differentiate between stray misconduct and abuse. Sad is no understanding. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
It is important to be able to recognize emotional abuse. Following tweets are some examples #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Every time a person is angry is #MEA but not necessarily abuse unless it is routine. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Even emotional abuse by women on women is about maintaining status quo and not challenging chauvinist standards. Think about it. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Speaking about the masculine gender holding or misusing power in society is not hating men. It is not hate to state facts. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Observing how ANY group reaches decisions – who gets silenced, who decides – and noting genders will reveal where power lies. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Most often, women who defend chauvinistic standards are those who have suffered them and survived. Benchmark of suffering. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Gender, power, age are at the root of social sanction. And, like any sanction, it can and is misused. Next few tweets. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
1. Gender: While individuals are different, stereotype is "men superior to women". The norm. Deviations get challenged. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
2. Power: A powerful person is superior to a less powerful person is another stereotype. Power = money, influence, physical… #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
3. Age: A person in the prime of life is superior to others older or younger. Another stereotype. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
These stereotypes are the basis of norms. These defaults are not necessarily fair, which is where all these rights things happen #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
It takes challenging stereotypes consciously to prevent the harm from the unconscious advantage that gets misused. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Challenging the stereotype of gender results in feminist, LGBT movements, gender sensitivity initiatives, laws for equality… #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Challenging the power stereotype results in worker unions, minority movements, reservations, anti-discrimination struggles… #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Challenging the age stereotype leads to child movements, old age homes, child abuse laws, etc. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
If you look at all these stereotypes, a healthy male in his prime years with a source of income has a strong bias in favor #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
This doesn’t mean that every male abuses, but it does mean that a male abuser has low resistance and many automatic defenders #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Now scroll up, and read all these tweets on stereotypes again, and understand the magnitude of the phenomenon. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
It is not possible to defeat stereotypes. But it is necessary to have enough awareness that harm can be prevented. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
And that, dear friends, was Vidyut’s Unconscious Psychology 101. Glad you attended. Excellent for us all if it triggers thought. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
@Vidyut what about #MEV on women by women…MIL’s #MEV on DIL and yes u will agree there r many DIL’s #MEV on MIL too? @vawmonth #vawam #ea
rammy_srk
October 5, 2011
Not all domestic violence is about gender. Generations in their prime abusing elders or kids is about the age stereotype. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Women on women #EA is about gender and chauvinism, particularly if the victim is in prime age and abuser not. Why? next tweet. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Women on women #EA is largely by women on women for "being women". Conforms to chauvinist expectations. Desires male attention. #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
EA = Emotional Abuse || VAWAM = Violence Against Women Awareness Month #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Another common assumption seems to be that chauvinists are only men and feminists are only women. #nottrue #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
When a rape survivor tells her story give her respect & accept her as part of society.It’s not easy to share & relive the agony. #VAWAM
rlalita
October 5, 2011
Advice from Dr Phil to the abuser –Have you thought about how your actions truly affect your partner? #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
@DTalksRadioShow @VAWMonth: Advice from Dr Phil to the abuser –Have you thought about how your actions truly affect your partner? #VAWAM”
oscarwriter1959
October 5, 2011
#EA #VAWAM RT @TheSolutionBaba: Some people don’t stop and consider my feelings when I’m insulting them. 🙁
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
If you think degrading and belittling your partner commands respect, you’re wrong. You are simply demanding by imposing fear. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
For the victim: Take responsibility. You have played a role in setting up the relationship & you must play a role in changing it. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
You need to make two bold moves: Change your own routine or behavior, and tell your partner you will no longer take the abuse. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
Dr. Phil says "There are no victims, only volunteers." Don’t go along to get along. Peace at any price is no peace at all. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
How do we treat our maids? Apparently badly: dom workers testify to violence in homes: http://t.co/oVwYsppR #VAWAM
_thealternative
October 5, 2011
Sep 2011, Gurgaon: Manipur Woman Abused and Attempted Rape. Police Delayed FIR at http://t.co/HbUhUy7O #VAWAM
maps4aid
October 5, 2011
Sep ’11, Mumbai: 14 yr old girl sets herself on fire after rape bid and molestation by 57 yr old man http://t.co/fNkwkQDz #VAWAM
maps4aid
October 5, 2011
Sep ’11, Coimbatore: 30-year-old man convicted for harassing his 22-year-old disabled wife over Dowry http://t.co/tOmQ9yFS #VAWAM
maps4aid
October 5, 2011
@Vidyut #EA#VAWAM…some neglect,abandonment…lot yellin like heck as a child..alcoholic home…destroys trust,security
valenchine
October 5, 2011
How can you change an emotionally abusive marriage? Some suggestions coming up. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
#EA#VAWAM none of my siblings are close because of childhood, barriers ,faux walls of protection.fear to come near
valenchine
October 5, 2011
Don”t back down on your personal rights; believe that your rights, needs, and dignity are just as valid & important as anyone else”s. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
Begin describing the negative behavior in clear words, State the impact on you, Declare that you want a change . #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
Get some help from a qualified coach or therapist — make sure it is someone who understands what you are experiencing. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
Make the decision to not be emotionally abused any longer. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
“Every time we liberate a woman, we liberate a man.” Margaret Mead via @Antarctic_Fox
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
One common problem with getting help dealing with #EA is the lack of skilled resources. Be sure you trust the person or find another. #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Know that you are not to blame for your partner’s abusive behaviour and that no one ever deserves to be abused. #VAWAM
VAWMonth
October 5, 2011
@Vidyut @VAWMonth #VAWAM and ensure that you stick to that decision come what may. There will be attacks on your resolve. You will be tested
drpdesai
October 5, 2011
Brewing thoughts over a cuppa coffee: #VAWAM ‘Break the bones of Violence’ http://t.co/hFpiJDna
pushpz
October 5, 2011
Sexual harassment at workplace : Victim lady constable transferred http://t.co/LNzRUjSU #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 5, 2011
Court lets off man from wifes suicide abetment charges. Victims family retracts… http://t.co/5VudKQIF #VAWAM #vaw
maps4aid
October 5, 2011
Life rolled me ~ wrapped up tight ~ tense and closed ~ flee or fight #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Life unravelled ~ set me free ~ flow, be more ~ to celebrate me #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Today in Violence Against Women Awareness Month, we have been talking about Emotional Abuse. Want to add any thoughts? #EA #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
RT @tikulli: IF IT HURTS IT IS NOT LOVE #EA#VAWAM
BeingJyoti
October 5, 2011
So that ends Day 5 on the subject of Emotional Abuse #EA in the Violence Against Women Awareness Month #VAWAM
Vidyut
October 5, 2011
Subject for Day 6 (6th Oct) in the Violence Against Women Awareness Month #VAWAM is "Marital Rape" #MR Tough one. Continue walking with us.
Vidyut
October 5, 2011

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